The Degenerate Confessions of a Secret Diary

i always laugh when i hear a girl say, they are “carrie” from sex and the city. i just nod and agree. yeah. sure you are. i guess it makes them feel liberated and empowered. that’s great. you go, girl! but as a guy, i think that show made it easier for us to have sex with women. it made it okay to have flings and one night stands without the negative stigma attached.

while i’m actually a fan of the HBO show: sex and the city; living in nyc is hardly the fairy tale for women as the show’s happy ending portrays. while yes, there’s probably lots of sex, but certainly no love for them. in reality the four single 30-40+ aged women probably end up single, used, lonely, bitter and owning many, many cats.  sounds harsh? sorry, but that’s the truth.

i was reading an article on oktrends which is the the blog site for okcupid which is the best free online dating site and according to them, most men prefer to date younger women. and while the article was trying to convince men to give older ladies a shot, because they become easier and less picky, the ugly truth is: you just can’t reason with dicks.

guys want what they want. a young woman in her physical prime of her early twenties is just more desirable for most guys. and even as the guys get older and they try to pick older women, more age appropriate for themselves as they get older too; bottom line, the women they choose will still be younger than them.

there was a study done on how there are almost twice as many single women in nyc as there are single men. and many young single women come to nyc to live the sex and the city dream, but unfortunately for most girls in their prime, they squander that unique moment in time to take advantage of the immense leverage they have over men.

and NOTE: i’m not saying all women are like this!

but it seems many make foolish decisions and waste time partying it up with the wrong guys. and then as they age and grow older and wiser, they are not as desired anymore. by the time they are in their late twenties, they still feel like they have time, unfortunately they somehow feel they are entitled to getting the same quality of men as when they were younger. and while they may still be able to bed these guys. none of them are actually looking to settle down with any of them.

by their 30′s these same guys are still playing around and having fun. why should a guy settle down when there’s such a huge surplus of young single women? if anything the guys are becoming more established in life, more experienced, more successful and more interesting! and as long as he can keep his hair and not gain too much weight, he’s probably just starting to reach HIS prime where he has more options and can have his pick of the litter.

so as women hit their 30′s the panic starts to set in and finally they start to appreciate the guys they probably would have overlooked in the past. unfortunately, it may even be too late to grab these guys. as they are now older and more confident in life and dating with a wider range of options.

so unless these women decide to really reach for the bottom of the barrel and settle. most will remain single, occasionally dating a guy they can’t actually hold on to for a long term relationship, cause let’s be real, these guys will probably be dating them for easy sex. or if the woman is successful; a suger-mama.

i say this not to be mean and cynical, which i guess i kind of am. but i say it as a warning to the younger women in nyc, be more grateful and responsible of your youth, beauty and the power that you hold. cause it won’t last.