The Degenerate Confessions of a Secret Diary

even though i don’t have a steady girlfriend, i have been having a decent amount of sex and dating quite a bit. but i gotta say, there are days when i’m just home alone, and don’t reeeally want to go out with any of the girls available to me. it feels pretty lonely.

i miss seeing my friends often.

i was watching this movie called “i love you, man” haha. it’s not a romantic comedy and NO, it’s not a movie about homosexuals. it’s what some are calling a bro-mance movie. and at first i thought it was silly and a ridiculous farce. but while it’s an extreme situational movie. it does hold some truths, at least for me.

the main character is one of those dudes that get along really well with girls and only have female friends. all his guy friends are just acquaintances and no one he really hangs out with or talks to much. he is in a perfect happy relationship with a girl and she just agrees to marry him.

but now that he is going to get married. he realizes he has no best man, cause he has no real male friends. so begins his sad but funny quest to make male friends as an adult man who has never really had one.

he goes through the hoops to only find a lonely old man, a gay man who thinks they are on a date, and a desperate and awkward loser.

finally, he meets a pretty cool dude at his open house who has his shit together and has no apparent problems and there begins the bro-mance.  or bro-mantic comedy. ha, wow that’s bad.

anyway, this “pretty cool dude” i realized is ME! he’s a cool regular guy that a lot of guys would want to be friends with.

the main question that comes up is what’s wrong with this guy that he doesn’t already have a ton of friends that take up most of his time.

weeeell, it’s because like me, he’s in 30′s and is not ready to settle down or even have a girlfriend. he just dates girls with no commitment. but all of his friends that he’s had probably during his 20′s have now moved on to marriage/kids and serious responsibilities. which leaves him with a lot more free time and less friends or least less time with his friends.

this is almost exactly the transitional period i am in right now in my life.

and while this was a funny movie and had a happy ending and all. it made me realize the single life stage of my life has past and gone. sad. not cause i’m single, but that i can’t hang out with my friends as much anymore in with the lifestyle i once had.

i’m a friendly guy and can make many an acquaintance, but genuine friendships are hard to come by. how does someone go about making real good friends in his 30′s that aren’t already setup with their groups of old friends?